Archive for December, 2011

Rant

Today my teenager stayed over for school when she wasn’t suppose to. When she did make it home it was past 7o/clock. I’m mad out of mt mind please tell me how to handle the situation without over re-acting.

Moms: Time To Get Along

I wanted to bring up a topic not so much to debate but rather discuss and it’s the way mothers attack each other rather than support one another.  If there is obvious abuse or danger it’s an obligation to intervene on a child’s behalf.  What happens is women tend to get lost in the minor details of parenting and make it a competition.  I dread the mothers at the park and my local YMCA for this reason.

Breastfeeding vs. Formula: Okay, my stance? Breast milk is natural and no doubt a mother (who is also eating healthy) will supply her baby with the most natural, nutritious and hypoallergenic sustenance. I also feel that women lack the family and friendship support to facilitate a less stressful environment that encourages breastfeeding and the patience it requires. This is not as common because women work just so the household doesn’t crumble financially. Also working, their mothers and probably grandmothers. My problem is women get militant about this and it is ridiculous.  Every circumstance is special and most women are doing the best they can.  There are times when a medication that can be excreted through breast milk is being taken.  Perhaps the mother simply has to go back to work and has no real choices, not every workplace welcomes the breast pump and breaks in order to do it.  Whatever the case formula is not poison, it’s probably less desirable nutritionally, however many babies appear to thrive on it.  Perhaps we can stop treating formula as if it were radioactive and choose what we will for our own child.  More so, extending an old-fashioned casserole too tired new mom instead of criticism.

Being Perfect vs. Admitting Faults: Another thing women tend to get overly catty about is who can pretend more.  Why is it not okay to admit you want a night alone, you don’t feel competent all the time, and your kid can be annoying.  While there are a lot of women who aren’t ashamed to ask for help, or admit they make mistakes, there are so many who want to keep an image.  It’s frustrating when you admit such downfalls you are met with disapproval. Who exactly made these women the authority on being a mother? The in-law and daughter-in-law relationship comes to mind as well.  It’s time to break these false walls and it’s okay to make small mistakes as long as it’s not intentional or hurtful. Furthermore it’s really not okay to criticize other women for the small things there are very real dangers and sadly, very real child abuse to worry about.

In conclusion I feel women shouldn’t be so hard on each other.  It’s not a competition and no one get’s a trophy.  So, show support, crochet a blanket and offer help. There’s no need for us to judge each other, our own fleeting insecurities are hard enough to cope with.

Random Rave

LAST-NIGHT I TOOK THE KIDS TO ALLEY CATS, WHICH IS A FUN PLACE TO TAKE CHILDREN. WE ALL HAD SO MUCH FUN PLAYING DIFFERENT GAMES WHICH THE KIDS REALLY ENJOYED. WE HAD A BLAST WITH ALL THE DIFFERENT GAMES. AFTER WE ATE IN PLAYED SOME MORE GAMES UNTIL FINALLY WE LEFT TO GO HOME. AFTER WE LEFT ME IN THE KIDS WENT TO WAL-MART TO DO A LITTLE SHOPPING. BUT THAT’S NOT EVEN HALF OF THE STORY. BEFORE LEAVING HOME I LEFT MY BROTHER AND THE GIRL NEXT DOOR AT MY HOUSE AND THEY DECIDED TO WELL JUST SAY DO GROWN UP THINGS. NOW PEOPLE TELL ME WHAT YOU THINK HOW SHOULD I HANDLE THE SITUATION. MIND YOU THAT THE GIRL IS ONLY 15 AND HES ONLY 16. BUT NEITHER SHOULD BE INDULGING IN THOSE TYPES OF ACTIVITIES UNTIL THEY ARE READY. I WAS SO UPSET AND STILL AM THIS MORNING I WANTED TO JUST THROW EVERYBODY OUT. SO CAN YOU ALL PLEASE HELP ME DECIDE HOW TO DEAL WITH THIS SITUATION. SHOULD I TELL HER MOM SHOULD I TELL MY DAD ON MY BROTHER PLEASE HELP. PULLING MY HAIR OUT RIGHT NOW!

MY SON KEYWUAN

THE FUNNIEST THING HAPPEN TO ME EARLIER TODAY MY 10YEAR OLD SON CALLED ME WHILE I WAS OUT SHOPPING AND ASKED, MOM WERE ARE YOU AND I REPLIED I’M OUT SHOPPING. HE THEN SAID WHEN WILL YOU COME HOME I SAID I’M LEAVING THE STORE NOW.HE THEN ASKED MOM WHAT ARE YOU NEAR I SAID WHY ARE YOU ASKING ME THAT HE THEN SAID I JUST WANTED TO STAY IN YOUR ROOM UNTIL YOU GET BACK. SO I SAID O.K. KEYWUAN THEN HUNG UP THE PHONE. 5MIN LATER I GOT ANOTHER CALL FROM KEYWUAN ASKING MOM WHAT ARE YOU NEAR I SAID KEYWUAN WHY YOU KEEP ASKING ME THIS. HE THEN REPLIED I THOUGHT YOU WAS NEAR BURGER KING SO YOU CAN BRING ME SOMETHING TO EAT. NOW REMIND YOU ALL OF THIS IS JUST 15 MIN AFTER HE JUST ATE. MY SON HAS ADHD AND HE NEVER FAIL TO MAKE ME LAUGH ON A DAILY BASIS.

Just A Random Thought

WHY IS IT THAT THE PEOPLE THAT ARE SUPPOSE TO BE THE CLOSET TO YOU ARE THE ONES THAT FEEL SO DISTANT FROM YOU. I WAS JUST SITTING HERE THINKING WHY DO WE HOLD ONTO GRUDGES. wHY IS IT THAT WE HOLD ON TO THINGS THAT DON’T MATTER INSTEAD OF HOLDING ON TO THINGS THAT DO. TODAY MOVING FORWARD I’M NOT LETTING ANYTHING OR ANYBODY GET IN MY WAY FROM HAVING COMPLETE HAPPINESS. BEING ANGRY AT SOMEONE TAKES A LOT OF ENERGY THAT I’M NOT WILLING TO GIVE ANYMORE. SO WITH THAT BEEN SAID TO ALL THE PEOPLE THAT FEEL I HAVE DID SOMETHING TO OFTEN THEM IM SORRY YOU FEEL THAT WAY. BUT FROM THIS DAY FORWARD I’M THREW WITH ALL THE BS. IF YOU DON’T HAVE SOMETHING POSITIVE TO SAY DON’T CALL,TEXT,E-MAIL ME WITH THE DRAMA. MY LIFE IS TO FULL OF OTHER IMPORTANT THINGS THAT REQUIRE MY ATTENTION. SORRY IF YOU THINK I’M COMING OFF THE WRONG WAY JUST CHANGING UP A FEW THINGS IN MY LIFE. SO TO ALL THAT’S READING THIS IF WE ALL DID THIS WE WOULD ALL BE BETTER OFF. FEEL FREE TO COPY AND PASTE AS ALWAYS GLENDORACHICK!